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| QUOTE (AprilRenae @ Mar 21 2006, 05:17 PM) |
| My son is 4 going on 5. Don't under estimate what a 2 year old understands. A 2 year old knows what "No" means. I'm not saying that i whack my kids repeatedly, but a swift hand to the behind is not going to emotionally scar them for life. |
When my little one was still crawling around still in diapers he Understood. You can see it in their little faces when their about to do something. He would be on his way to touch something and he would pause and look at me. (joy of breaking their will early) Sometimes he would test his will power and shucka shucka his ass real fast and try anyway (because they all will test at times) and I would say Eh and he would stop again.
I used the flick/thump tactic when he knew he was wrong when he wants to put his pacifier in the VCR or socket. He would cry and it wouldnt move me a bit because I knew that that little thump will keep him from killing himself. That little face would make me say ooooh my little baby but I thumped him with love.
Affection comes with honesty. Talk to the kids and they'll talk right back. But you gotta make sure the kids respect you before you respect them.
Children have to learn what trust is. They have to earn that trust and you just can't give it to them on a friggin platter. That's what I tell my nieces all the time. I never put my hand on them but they know that if they cross that line, I'ma take them over it and they're not going to like it.
Discipline makes way for affection because the child has to understand why they got the discipline in the first place. How else are they going to learn that they have to be responsible and own up to their mistakes? If you don't communicate with your kids, then the discipline is in vain (and I don't mean, "cuz I said so" to be any form of communication either)
you must have balance.
PS: don't think that my father wasn't abusive to my mom either, etc. Just because I don't speak on it doesn't mean that it happened. I was just able to be my own person and rise above that. That's the second most important thing (and the hardest thing) to teach your children - to be their own person (and have a good sense of right and wrong).
Children have to learn what trust is. They have to earn that trust and you just can't give it to them on a friggin platter. That's what I tell my nieces all the time. I never put my hand on them but they know that if they cross that line, I'ma take them over it and they're not going to like it.
Discipline makes way for affection because the child has to understand why they got the discipline in the first place. How else are they going to learn that they have to be responsible and own up to their mistakes? If you don't communicate with your kids, then the discipline is in vain (and I don't mean, "cuz I said so" to be any form of communication either)
you must have balance.
PS: don't think that my father wasn't abusive to my mom either, etc. Just because I don't speak on it doesn't mean that it happened. I was just able to be my own person and rise above that. That's the second most important thing (and the hardest thing) to teach your children - to be their own person (and have a good sense of right and wrong).
| QUOTE (SashaThumper @ Mar 21 2006, 04:35 PM) |
ya'll ever got your ass whipped, then whipped some more cuz you cry about it?  i can't front, i can't wait to do that to my kids  |
WORD!!!!
I used to get beatings for shit that I was gonna in the future.
Can't wait for my kids to say "I'm sorry Daddy. I won't do it anymore".
"I know......you......won't......be doing.......this anymore.......don't....you......know....this hurts.......me......more than......it......does.....you????.......how come.......you......"
be easy on the whoopings. use them when needed. don't know to many people that are normal that had super strict parents. you know when you deserved it.
I'm still out on the whole discipline thing. I mean my dad didn't discipline me AT ALL!!! I grew up with my dad and I didn't give him problems....and honestly I wasn't scared of my dad one bit. My first and only spanking was in 5th grade. I was never scared of my dad....not even a little bit. I enjoyed school and did well because of that...I think it was just my temperment. I naturally was an easy child to deal with because I had everything I wanted/needed and liked school and saw no reason to cut up. That doesn't lend to my dad's great parenting style. He just lucked up with a mild mannered child. Yet let him tell it....he disciplined with a firm/loving hand. PULEASE! My dad could never say no to me....EVER. I was extremly spoiled...played the sad, sullen...I miss my mommy role anytime I wanted something or as insurance of not getting in trouble. I was totally manipulative...and knew exactly how to stay under the radar. I think I was born with those personality traits and if my dad really was the great parent he thought he was he would have worked extra hard at getting me out of my slick manipulative ways because those were the one's that he had to deal with as a teenager that he didn't know how to handle. The one's that could have really lent to my downfall as an adult.
I know people who have 2 children and both kids come from the same family/household and act totally different. One is straight as a pin and the other is a loose cannon. Is it parenting issues then? Or is it just personality differences? What works for one childs temperment doesn't work for all.
God bless all the moms who feel they hold the key to the perfect child. I'm definetley not one of them.
I know people who have 2 children and both kids come from the same family/household and act totally different. One is straight as a pin and the other is a loose cannon. Is it parenting issues then? Or is it just personality differences? What works for one childs temperment doesn't work for all.
God bless all the moms who feel they hold the key to the perfect child. I'm definetley not one of them.
| QUOTE (ELOCIN @ Mar 21 2006, 07:30 PM) |
| II know people who have 2 children and both kids come from the same family/household and act totally different. One is straight as a pin and the other is a loose cannon. Is it parenting issues then? Or is it just personality differences? |
damn I want to answer but I dont have kids
| QUOTE (deka @ Mar 21 2006, 07:34 PM) | ||
damn I want to answer but I dont have kids |
Deks....give some insight. Sometimes the best people to give their opinion are the ones who are on the outside looking in!
| QUOTE (deka @ Mar 21 2006, 07:13 PM) |
| be easy on the whoopings. use them when needed. don't know to many people that are normal that had super strict parents. you know when you deserved it. |
I got my ass whooped, close lined, power bombed, and I'm still here! …and I'm still scared of my momma!
hmmm.. kids are different and also parents are different as they get older. .. there also theories about first born, second born, ect... which i think is very interesting.. personality is very complex.. and how we turn out, i think, is a mix of nature vs. nurture.
my sister and i were opposites as children, she was an angel, i was.. some would say, wild
now she's a little louder, and i'm more quiet.
my sister and i were opposites as children, she was an angel, i was.. some would say, wild
now she's a little louder, and i'm more quiet.
I just want to say THANK YOU MOMMA for beating my ass...You put such a fear in me that only GOD knows..Your the best Moms in the world!
for all the parents who suggest beating the kids, not sparing the rod, etc... here are my questions... as a parent, you learn something new every day... so here goes...
they say, kids emulate what goes on in the home. when my son was in day care, they could tell we yelled alot b/c our son would yell at the other kids when he was trying to get his way or became frustrated.... so do you think that by beating your kids they will use the same behavior on their peers or other family members as a solution to their problems? do you think they will bully other kids as they try to instill fear in others? since its a common belief that drugs are a cop out to solving the real issues at hand, do you think that abuse (physical or verbal) is effective at truly solving problems?
I was tempted to break out the belt tonight... i think i got amped up from all the posting today
they say, kids emulate what goes on in the home. when my son was in day care, they could tell we yelled alot b/c our son would yell at the other kids when he was trying to get his way or became frustrated.... so do you think that by beating your kids they will use the same behavior on their peers or other family members as a solution to their problems? do you think they will bully other kids as they try to instill fear in others? since its a common belief that drugs are a cop out to solving the real issues at hand, do you think that abuse (physical or verbal) is effective at truly solving problems?
I was tempted to break out the belt tonight... i think i got amped up from all the posting today
| QUOTE (ELOCIN @ Mar 21 2006, 07:43 PM) | ||||
Deks....give some insight. Sometimes the best people to give their opinion are the ones who are on the outside looking in! |
parents also deal with their children differently
I'm confused about the "spare the rod, spoil the child" thing. I could never tell if this sentence was simply meant as a statement or a warning. I always looked at it as a warning which would make sense to me because I'm already know that when I had kids I will be disciplining (belts, extension cords, twigs, ect) It worked on me!
I always looked at it as a warning which would make sense to me because I'm already know that when I had kids I will be disciplining (belts, extension cords, twigs, ect) It worked on me!
man I used to get so upset when i got whipped. I swore I was abused. I used to break out in welts when I got hit so it seemed so much worse to me because of the physical evidence left behind.
however you choose to punish your kids, make sure you explain what they are being punished for -- even if it seems obvious .
however you choose to punish your kids, make sure you explain what they are being punished for -- even if it seems obvious .
i used to get it with those thick, ol' school belts ... but i still probably coulda used one last woopin'
| QUOTE (deka @ Mar 21 2006, 10:35 AM) |
 BIGITUP IS A SHREDDER LADIES AND GENTLEMEN. LOOK AT HER RIPP IT UP!  |
Put me on blast!
Thank you I am humbled by the compliment.
| QUOTE (bigitup @ Mar 21 2006, 09:35 PM) | ||
Put me on blast! Thank you I am humbled by the compliment. |
can we see a frontal shot
| QUOTE (FOLKS @ Mar 21 2006, 09:37 PM) | ||||
can we see a frontal shot |
I have no frontal shots. That was a random cell phone "action" pic. But next time I go, I'll be sure to bring evidence. 
| QUOTE (FOLKS @ Mar 21 2006, 09:32 PM) |
| i used to get it with those thick, ol' school belts ... but i still probably coulda used one last woopin' |
the worst was having to pick out your own belt!!! i know i'm not the only one who stood there trying to decide which belt would hurt the least...it never worked...all them bitches hurt
| QUOTE (bigitup @ Mar 21 2006, 09:51 PM) | ||||||
I have no frontal shots. That was a random cell phone "action" pic. But next time I go, I'll be sure to bring evidence. |
i believe its you snowboardin' but i'm just trying to see whats up?
| QUOTE (FOLKS @ Mar 21 2006, 10:12 PM) | ||||||||
i believe its you snowboardin' but i'm just trying to see whats up? |
hahahahaha it's all good there famo!
| QUOTE (deka @ Mar 21 2006, 10:59 PM) | ||||||||||
hahahahaha it's all good there famo! |
i felt that ... thanks for confirming
| QUOTE (FOLKS @ Mar 21 2006, 11:01 PM) | ||||||||||||
i felt that ... thanks for confirming |
| QUOTE (msdms @ Mar 21 2006, 08:53 PM) |
| for all the parents who suggest beating the kids, not sparing the rod, etc... here are my questions... as a parent, you learn something new every day... so here goes... they say, kids emulate what goes on in the home. when my son was in day care, they could tell we yelled alot b/c our son would yell at the other kids when he was trying to get his way or became frustrated.... so do you think that by beating your kids they will use the same behavior on their peers or other family members as a solution to their problems? do you think they will bully other kids as they try to instill fear in others? since its a common belief that drugs are a cop out to solving the real issues at hand, do you think that abuse (physical or verbal) is effective at truly solving problems? I was tempted to break out the belt tonight... i think i got amped up from all the posting today |
ya'll really had me thinking so much about all this last nite...i just want 2 say that i discipline my child i just dont do physical discipline...IMO for a 2 year old time out should suffice...my son acting out and all when we go it is totally normal...he isnt running around hurting himself or anyone else, just the normal tantrum things(which is frustrating 2 me, but it is a phase)...i do believe that physical discipline opens the door 4 a child 2 be more prone 2 violence among their peers...because its like saying "ur action was wrong, so im gonna hit u 4 it"..in a child's mind that is translated as "when someone does something wrong, they should get hit"...we as parents need 2 understand that our children, at young ages dont grasp certain concepts as we do...even after it is explained 2 them..kids translate things so differently than adults...so 2 all those who believe in physical discipline, please keep this in mind...
happy wednesday ya'll!
Finally got that Leela James - niiiicccceee. Thanks BKScribe (I think) and the rest of you who were gushing about her the other week.
As for the kids . . . beat they asses. Not in an abusive sort of way, but don't hesitate to put that backhand in motion if necessary.
I'm a definite proponent of spanking and will do so if and when I have a kid. (it'd only be one) As my mom used to say, "You want to act a fool, I'ma act a fool right witcha."
As for the kids . . . beat they asses. Not in an abusive sort of way, but don't hesitate to put that backhand in motion if necessary.
I'm a definite proponent of spanking and will do so if and when I have a kid. (it'd only be one) As my mom used to say, "You want to act a fool, I'ma act a fool right witcha."
Album Release party was crazy last night; free beer, classic hip-hop most of the night, attractive women to see......until dudes start talking that
"namean????.....yo yo yo check this yo namean the illuminati is near so yo yo yo check this out niggas better buy our album and stop listening to that fake shit.....namean???.....youknowwhatimsayin???.....niggas be......niggas be frontin namean???......yo where Brooklyn at????......namean????.....yo yo yo fuck that the Bronx is in the building....fuck that Cristal shit.....namean????.....real niggas drink Guiness and 151....yo give it up to God namean???.....cause without him none of ya'll niggas would be here....namean???
Going back to two children of the same family coming up different. When I was young my parents were together and there was discipline in our house. I wasn't allowed to talk back, I got whoppings (with a board) when I lied, did something I wasn’t suppose to or got in trouble at school. I wasn't allowed to question my parents..if I wanted something and they said NO, that was it..end of conversation, I couldn’t ask why or anything.I had chores everyday that I HAD to do.
My sister was 9 years younger than me and was very young when my parents separated. I think my parents felt like they needed to be extra lenient with my sister because they weren't together anymore. She never had any responsibilities, never was whopped, never saw any consequences to her actions. And up until the day she moved out she talked back to my mother, slammed doors, hung up the phone on her and expected my mom to provide everything she wanted even if it would have caused a financial strain. Just things I would have and never will do. I've had to check her many times about the way she treats our mom. And I think it has a lot to do with the lack of discipline that my parents gave her because they were trying to shelter her from the divorce. She never saw any consequences to her actions growing up. My sister is expecting her first child now and well you know what they say about your child giving it back you.
My sister was 9 years younger than me and was very young when my parents separated. I think my parents felt like they needed to be extra lenient with my sister because they weren't together anymore. She never had any responsibilities, never was whopped, never saw any consequences to her actions. And up until the day she moved out she talked back to my mother, slammed doors, hung up the phone on her and expected my mom to provide everything she wanted even if it would have caused a financial strain. Just things I would have and never will do. I've had to check her many times about the way she treats our mom. And I think it has a lot to do with the lack of discipline that my parents gave her because they were trying to shelter her from the divorce. She never saw any consequences to her actions growing up. My sister is expecting her first child now and well you know what they say about your child giving it back you.
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| My sister is expecting her first child now and well you know what they say about your child giving it back you |
yes sirrr....
i believe this to the nth!!
i got beyond beat and have/ had no respect for my parents because of it. if i ever have a kid, God willing, i will not hit him/her. i think you have to judge what works for the child and all kids don't repsond well to getting hit. for me, when i finally stopped acting a fool (mostly acting out as a result of what was going on at home) it was because my parents actually stopped wilding the eff out and talking to me like i had some sense. then voila, with rare exception, i started acting like i did.
growing up, i did to others exactly what was done to me (although i've only been in one fight, i cursed out anybody who even looked at me wrong--teachers included) at home and then got in trouble at home because of it. horrible cycle.
growing up, i did to others exactly what was done to me (although i've only been in one fight, i cursed out anybody who even looked at me wrong--teachers included) at home and then got in trouble at home because of it. horrible cycle.
| QUOTE (BKLYNScribe @ Mar 22 2006, 10:52 AM) |
| i got beyond beat and have/ had no respect for my parents because of it. if i ever have a kid, God willing, i will not hit him/her. i think you have to judge what works for the child and all kids don't repsond well to getting hit. for me, when i finally stopped acting a fool (mostly acting out as a result of what was going on at home) it was because my parents actually stopped wilding the eff out and talking to me like i had some sense. then voila, with rare exception, i started acting like i did. growing up, i did to others exactly what was done to me (although i've only been in one fight, i cursed out anybody who even looked at me wrong--teachers included) at home and then got in trouble at home because of it. horrible cycle. |
I was beaten simular to how you were. Then removed from my parents care and given to a guardian who also beat me, and did much worse.
I don't beat my son, and I don't have to. I still have the mean mommy face for when he is getting out of line, and he thinks I could one day beat him so he behaves.
I think to strike another individual is the most disrespectful thing that can be done. It is my belief that parents who end up beating their children, do so because they did not start to disciplin their children in the early stages (cute phase) of their lives. I have found that talking goes a long way, and respecting children as people goes further.
JMO
I'm a firm believer in corporal punishment. However, I don't believe in beating children as a result of you losing your self control as a parent. Children are perceptive and sensitive, an overreliance on physical punishment can lead to self esteem issues. Fear of disappointing his or her parents should weigh heavier in your child's mind than fear of a whopping. On the other hand, I also think a child needs to feel if the behavior is egregious(sp) enough a good cut-tail may very well be in order.
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thank u bscribe and goodie..i was beginning 2 think i was alone on my non physical disciplining methods...
| QUOTE (mrdilligaf456 @ Mar 22 2006, 11:16 AM) |
| I'm a firm believer in corporal punishment. However, I don't believe in beating children as a result of you losing your self control as a parent. Children are perceptive and sensitive, an overreliance on physical punishment can lead to self esteem issues. Fear of disappointing his or her parents should weigh heavier in your child's mind than fear of a whopping. On the other hand, I also think a child needs to feel if the behavior is egregious(sp) enough a good cut-tail may very well be in order. D |
so u don't think there is a correlation between children who r disciplined physically growing up 2 become violent, aggressive adults?
| QUOTE (Jerazyck @ Mar 21 2006, 07:44 PM) | ||
I got my ass whooped, close lined, power bombed, and I'm still here! …and I'm still scared of my momma! |
i second that...
i got my ass busted by my dad, but i would never say that i was abused....each time i remember getting my ass kicked, it was deserved (except when my dad and i had our fistfights)...i think there's nothing wrong w/ physically disciplining a child as long as they understand why they are being disciplined...
| QUOTE (SashaThumper @ Mar 22 2006, 11:38 AM) |
| i got my ass busted by my dad, but i would never say that i was abused....each time i remember getting my ass kicked, it was deserved (except when my dad and i had our fistfights |
Remind me to never get on your bad side.
| QUOTE (RoyaleWithCheese @ Mar 22 2006, 11:47 AM) | ||
Remind me to never get on your bad side. |
| QUOTE (SashaThumper @ Mar 22 2006, 12:05 PM) | ||||
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you had a fist fight with ur daddy?
I feel great today, although Im a lil tired, it was worth it.
We kicked ass last nite!!! 80% to 19%
What a victory party, Wow!!!
I hope Stroger keeps the lead, and wins!!!
I love my daddy so much, he's such a trooper!!!!....so inspiring...
We kicked ass last nite!!! 80% to 19%
What a victory party, Wow!!!
I hope Stroger keeps the lead, and wins!!!
I love my daddy so much, he's such a trooper!!!!....so inspiring...
Right now, Personally i do think I needed beatings back in the day and they set me straight but only when you become more into you adolescent and early teens you might need a lil beat down but as far as hitting a child from like ages 4-10..That's a no go in my book..Because I LOVE THE MIND GAMES I CAN PLAY WITH THEM INSTEAD OF BEATING THEM..DO YOU KNOW THE POWER YOU FEEL WHEN YOU CAN JUST SAY A WORD OR LOOK A CERTAIN WAY AT THEM AND A CHILD STARTS CRYING..I LOVE IT!!!..lol..
My nephew is 5 yrs old now..and loves me to death but knows I don't play that!!..I have never hit him..I have just PUNCH the Shit out of STUFF when he does something bad and he KNOWS..he doesn't want that to be him..Nowadays one bad thing..Back talking or not doing what is asked..I just grab my cellphone and say I'm calling the POLICE to Come arrest him and LAWD..the flood gates start to open he starts BAWLING OUT of CONTROL..Apologies up the ass and he is running around like a mofo Robot doing what is told!..
LOVE THE MIND GAMES!!
My nephew is 5 yrs old now..and loves me to death but knows I don't play that!!..I have never hit him..I have just PUNCH the Shit out of STUFF when he does something bad and he KNOWS..he doesn't want that to be him..Nowadays one bad thing..Back talking or not doing what is asked..I just grab my cellphone and say I'm calling the POLICE to Come arrest him and LAWD..the flood gates start to open he starts BAWLING OUT of CONTROL..Apologies up the ass and he is running around like a mofo Robot doing what is told!..
LOVE THE MIND GAMES!!
| QUOTE (Alfredo_fedicini @ Mar 22 2006, 12:13 PM) |
| Right now, Personally i do think I needed beatings back in the day and they set me straight I LOVE THE MIND GAMES I CAN PLAY WITH THEM INSTEAD OF BEATING THEM..DO YOU KNOW THE POWER YOU FEEL WHEN YOU CAN JUST SAY A WORD OR LOOK A CERTAIN WAY AT THEM AND A CHILD STARTS CRYING..I LOVE IT!!!..lol.. |
WORD!!! My mother used to give me....'The Look'. Would nearly piss on myself.
Never got in trouble for school cause I was always a B+ and up student but would always do stupid shit like stealing action figures and getting caught, pulling fire alarms with my cousins and having girls in the house when they weren't around and my sister would always tell on me.
I hope to never have to beat my child, but will have no problem doing it if it is warranted.
| QUOTE (Sweet G @ Mar 22 2006, 09:09 AM) | ||||||
you had a fist fight with ur daddy? |
I believe it.... one time I almost gutted my daddy like a fish.... if it wasn't for my fear of jail.... I'd be an orphan
| QUOTE (Sweet G @ Mar 22 2006, 12:09 PM) | ||||||
you had a fist fight with ur daddy? |
yeah, i did...i posted this before but when i was in h.s. my dad had a drug problem and boy did we battle it out...so no, i'm not some wild wayward problem child like mccallsgirl though....at least i don't think i was
(j/k mccallsgirl )
To the folks with the abusive parents -- what is your relationship like with your parents now that you are adults? And do you think you've healed since? How do you reconcile with your past?
Questions for the ladies...(That had fights with there fathers)...I don't know what the problem was but..I just want to know do ya'll forgive them now and Did he ever tell you why he beat you?..Do you understand the reasoning behind it?
I personally really don't want any daughters..Just looking at my lil 16 yr old cousin who know is into boys..I want to kill any of these freaking Jordan wearing lil Bums who try to talk to her!!..I probably will die when my daughter starts growing breasts, gets her period, start getting hips...because with Puberty comes soooooooooo much problems...SEX...BOYS..PREGNANCY..DATING..SEX...ACTING GROWN..SEX..I mean I don't know if I can go on with Life thinking of some boy breaking my lil girl heart or just doing things sexually with her..OOHH I think I'ma throw up..(and I don't even have a daughter)
I personally really don't want any daughters..Just looking at my lil 16 yr old cousin who know is into boys..I want to kill any of these freaking Jordan wearing lil Bums who try to talk to her!!..I probably will die when my daughter starts growing breasts, gets her period, start getting hips...because with Puberty comes soooooooooo much problems...SEX...BOYS..PREGNANCY..DATING..SEX...ACTING GROWN..SEX..I mean I don't know if I can go on with Life thinking of some boy breaking my lil girl heart or just doing things sexually with her..OOHH I think I'ma throw up..(and I don't even have a daughter)
^^^^^^^^FREDO...u r doomed brugh
u WILL have a daughter just from your comments!!
haa. ...haaaaaaaaa
there is NOTHING like a daddy/daughter bond...i'm sure you'll love it when and if the time comes.
never had fights with anyone in my fam...never.
now my dad pulled out belts and switches to beat/spank me for a couple of mins
(which seemed like hours) ...and 3-4 hrs after that...we would be best buddies again
now can't say the same for mom dukes...she would sometimes barely tap me..and I would hold a grudge for like WEEKS....
i still never get the dicohtomy of my reactions to this day
u WILL have a daughter just from your comments!!
haa. ...haaaaaaaaa
there is NOTHING like a daddy/daughter bond...i'm sure you'll love it when and if the time comes.
never had fights with anyone in my fam...never.
now my dad pulled out belts and switches to beat/spank me for a couple of mins
(which seemed like hours) ...and 3-4 hrs after that...we would be best buddies again
now can't say the same for mom dukes...she would sometimes barely tap me..and I would hold a grudge for like WEEKS....
i still never get the dicohtomy of my reactions to this day
wow sasha. i guess i could understand why you had the fight.
my father/mother never touched me at all(youngest)..but when my sisters (4 of them)a came up from the west indies when i was 13 my only child days were up!!
they had fights with my dad (not their dad) and of course they don't like him. they still talk about it 20 plus years later.
my sister beats her boys silly all the time which i think comes from that...my other sister does too.
the rest of us don't beat our kids.
i feel bad that they had to experience that.
my father/mother never touched me at all(youngest)..but when my sisters (4 of them)a came up from the west indies when i was 13 my only child days were up!!
they had fights with my dad (not their dad) and of course they don't like him. they still talk about it 20 plus years later.
my sister beats her boys silly all the time which i think comes from that...my other sister does too.
the rest of us don't beat our kids.
i feel bad that they had to experience that.
| QUOTE (Alfredo_fedicini @ Mar 22 2006, 12:31 PM) |
| Questions for the ladies...(That had fights with there fathers)...I don't know what the problem was but..I just want to know do ya'll forgive them now and Did he ever tell you why he beat you?..Do you understand the reasoning behind it? I personally really don't want any daughters..Just looking at my lil 16 yr old cousin who know is into boys..I want to kill any of these freaking Jordan wearing lil Bums who try to talk to her!!..I probably will die when my daughter starts growing breasts, gets her period, start getting hips...because with Puberty comes soooooooooo much problems...SEX...BOYS..PREGNANCY..DATING..SEX...ACTING GROWN..SEX..I mean I don't know if I can go on with Life thinking of some boy breaking my lil girl heart or just doing things sexually with her..OOHH I think I'ma throw up..(and I don't even have a daughter) |
you will be BLESSED WITH ALL GIRLS....and i love when men say stuff like this...esp. since they are the ones who decide the child's sex.....@ any rate, i have since forgiven my father for his issue...the beatings he gave me as a kid and the fistfights we had are two totally different things...the beatings he gave me as a child were typical parent/child disciplinary actions...the fistfights were a result of his drug use later in life...he's since sobered up and apologized and i forgave him....he's my dad above all and side from the mistakes he's made, he's great father who supports me in everything i do....
as for my kids, i honestly hope to have no boys....i think raising boys into men is harder...
| QUOTE (770 @ Mar 22 2006, 12:29 PM) |
| To the folks with the abusive parents -- what is your relationship like with your parents now that you are adults? And do you think you've healed since? How do you reconcile with your past? |
good questions 770...i dont speak 2 my biological father anymore...i havent seen or spoken to him since he put me in the hospital back in 98...he is unhealthy 4 me...he was abusive 2 my mother and she left back in 86, havent seen her since, but im looking...ive gone thru therapy 2 "get over" my past and in the field that im in, u kind of have 2 otherwise u would break down after each appointment...honestly, i know i havent healed 100% from my past, cuz i self-medicate thru smokin the good green...but its an ongoing process that takes years and years...but now that i know God, i have 2 say i feel more of an inner peace...
| QUOTE (dimendaruff @ Mar 22 2006, 01:25 PM) | ||
good questions 770...i dont speak 2 my biological father anymore...i havent seen or spoken to him since he put me in the hospital back in 98...he is unhealthy 4 me...he was abusive 2 my mother and she left back in 86, havent seen her since, but im looking...ive gone thru therapy 2 "get over" my past and in the field that im in, u kind of have 2 otherwise u would break down after each appointment...honestly, i know i havent healed 100% from my past, cuz i self-medicate thru smokin the good green...but its an ongoing process that takes years and years...but now that i know God, i have 2 say i feel more of an inner peace... |
* Cyber hug* I'm glad you did that for yourself and your well being (the therapy) as well as for your career. You should be proud of yourself. Inner peace will come -- I feel like I'm finally getting to a place where I don't need to self-medicate and can just love my chronic for the sake of loving my chronic...
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